July 28, 2014

happythankyoumoreplease (photos by Nicole Potts)

July 28, 2014
"My idea of rich is that you can buy every book you ever want without looking at the price and you’re never around assholes. That’s the two things to really fight for in life."

— John Waters  (via detailsdetales)

(Source: marion--crane, via nogreatillusion)

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Filed under: john waters 
July 25, 2014
they actually were the funniest (written by a seven year-old named Lulu who will be a famous writer in 25 years - calling it now)

they actually were the funniest (written by a seven year-old named Lulu who will be a famous writer in 25 years - calling it now)

July 25, 2014
surrender

I won’t let him sleep in my apartment yet. I haven’t invited him to meet my friends even though he wants me to meet his, wants to show me to his parents, wants me to sleep next to him in a tent next weekend and sit next to him on a plane the week after. He wants me to come half a dozen times every night. He wants me to stay, even when it means he’ll have to wake up to drive me home at six in the morning because I forgot to turn off the alarm clock on my bedside table and I don’t want to wake all the neighbors. He sends shivers down my spine, curls my toes, packs an extra sweatshirt that he pulls out of nowhere when my teeth start chattering on the walk to the truck – and I won’t let him sleep in my apartment.

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When I was in elementary school, I used to show up in the office at least once a month, at least every time there was a lice outbreak around the school, claiming that my head itched so they would have to pick through my hair with the lice-searching chopsticks. I never had head lice. I did that, I tell him, I so liked the feeling of my head being scratched.

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I go to an early yoga practice Wednesday morning. Twice during class, the teacher walks past me during a pose and presses her fingers into the back of my neck, where the muscles are activated, tendons tight and strained when they should be relaxed. The second time, she says: Recognize this. Just be aware of it now, through class, throughout your day. Recognize that you carry tension in your neck.

This is where you find the balance between effort and surrender, she says. It would seem, based on the words themselves, that effort is the hard part, but for many of us, that’s not the case. It’s not wrong if that’s not the case for you – but recognize it. She says: Try to find the balance.

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Instead of sleeping at my apartment, we spend nights in the bed he shared for four years with the woman before me, and somehow he sleeps easy. Last night I lay awake and stare at the same walls that she maybe lay awake and stared at, in the beginning or toward the end of the fourth year or both. The place is haunted, I think, or I am. He doesn’t believe in ghosts.

Last night, when I roll toward him and then away, toss and turn and subtract from the already-meager four hours of sleep he will get before work, he lets me, he smiles, he runs his fingers through my hair like he’s searching for lice or in love. You okay? he whispers, as his hand moves over my head and down the back of my neck. Recognize: it is tense. Recognize: I am trying to find the balance.

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Filed under: words josiane curtis 
July 25, 2014
LUCY TIVEN // SMALL HANDS /QUARTER 01

LUCY TIVEN // SMALL HANDS /QUARTER 01

(Source: naphypelabs, via sbridgins)

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Filed under: Lucy Tiven Poetry oof 
July 25, 2014
susie knuckles in love

lunchboxpoems:

i think i met all the
wrong men before
you and i think they
ruined me but i
think you’re really
handsome the way
a map is handsome,
with skin wide open
soaked in the whole
world’s ink. i
think i’m done pulling
paint off the walls i
think i want to read
you the names of
every city that ever
burned down, i think
we’d like it there.

SAFIA ELHILLO

July 24, 2014
i have no business giving writing advice, but today someone i love asked me for it, so

I thought I’d share (an excerpt from) what I sent back to her.

My first piece of advice is that you should seek advice elsewhere, like, for a start, Brain Pickings’ comprehensive list of Famous Advice on Writing.

But, since you asked me, I would say that you should be honest first, and then be brave. It definitely depends on what kind of writing you do, but I write pretty personal memoir-style pieces, and my ultimate goal is always to convey what I think and feel without pretense or being overly sentimental. In order to do this, I have to write my initial draft down without thinking about the reader at all, without thinking about how anything I say will be interpreted or received. Last year, I took a workshop with Cheryl Strayed and she discussed the process of writing Wild. The book, if you haven’t read it (and I think maybe you’ve mentioned before that you had? but even if not, I don’t think I’m spoiling anything here, hopefully), is partly about her mother’s death and how she deals with it.

There’s a scene where Cheryl is spreading her mother’s ashes, letting handfuls fall through her fingers, and when she’s done, she looks in her hand and there are a few bigger chunks remaining, like tiny pebbles. She doesn’t know what to do with them, and then without thinking, she puts what’s left in her hand into her mouth and swallows.

Cheryl said, in the workshop, that when she initially wrote that part down, she planned on removing it later before sending to her editor. And then after leaving it in the draft to her editor, she planned on removing the section before it went to the publisher. And ultimately she never took it out, and it became, by a long shot, the passage that she received the most emails about, the most thank yous by readers for being so honest and raw and brave. The point here is that you always have the option to take it out later, but you can’t be afraid to let everything you feel hit the page first. This is the part about being honest.

You may realize in the end, if you decide to share your writing, that you want to leave it all in there. That’s the part about being brave.

Eventually, I do think about the reader. I think about Amy Hempel’s advice on being aware of (and respecting) the people you’re writing for. I go back and try to take out clichés, which I think I’m prone to using. But spilling it out messily is my necessary first step, and making it coherent and cohesive comes in second and third drafts. Good luck with everything!

July 23, 2014

browniehusband:

my future husband better propose with a pun

(via elleneatsbreakfast)

July 23, 2014
"…today was the first day in some time that I woke up excited. You have to be careful with that feeling, she’s delicate and simple, the soufflé of emotions. You need to tend to it, manage it, or it deflates."

Date By Numbers: on expectations 

July 22, 2014

got the whole place to myself-ie

July 22, 2014
"I get this a lot — people apologizing to me for being sad about a thing, but I try to explain that I know it’s all relative. See, every trauma hits you with a force relative to what the rest of your life was like. The worst thing that’s ever happened to you, whatever it is, feels like the worst thing that’s ever happened to you."

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